Co-dependency sufferers are unable to enjoy a healthy relationship with another person. Co-dependency is classified as a ‘dysfunction helping relationship’. Co-dependency is an addiction in its own right, and one often as devastating to the sufferer as drug or alcohol misuse. The term ‘co-dependency’ was originally known as ‘co-alcoholism’ to denote traits displayed by female partners of a male alcoholic. Co-dependant partner often develop substance abuse themselves. Co-dependency sufferers are said to ‘enable’ their partner’s addiction.
Co-dependency is seldom treated in isolation. Co-dependency sufferers are often surprised to learn of co-dependency’s diagnosis. It is common for co-dependency sufferers to live with this condition for many years before a diagnosis made. Co-dependency is thought to develop in childhood.
Sufferers of co-dependency
In the twenty-first century co-dependency is no longer restricted to wives of alcoholic husbands. The condition is now thought to apply even in absence of substance abuse. Co-dependency may apply to all relationships, not just marital. Co-dependency may arise from a relationship between parents and their offspring and even between work colleagues and friends. In fact, as long as co-dependency’s symptoms are apparent any variety of relationship may properly be described as a ‘co-dependency’.
Symptoms of co-dependency
Persons suffering from co-dependency commonly place the needs of others before their own, even when it is totally irrational to do so.
Below we list some of co-dependency’s symptoms:
- Low self-esteem. Cannot function from their ‘innate self’
- Feel very depressed or even suicidal when criticised by partner
- Approval seeking to point where it repels partner
- Utter lack of self-care
- Life is fixed around another person
- Often reward partner even for poor behaviour
- Constantly looking for quick fix to improve destructive relationship
- Feel responsible for partner’s failings
- Rewarding partner for poor behaviour just conditions them to repeat it
- Assuming role of caregiver even when destructive to do so e.g. when enables partner’s substance abuse
- Commonly sabotage partner’s wish to seek professional help for substance abuse. This is because co-dependant feels only solution to partner’s problems, a condition known as ‘Messiah Complex’
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Ocean Recovery Centre offers a comprehensive co-dependency rehabilitation programme. Before your rehabilitation programme begins, an initial pre-admissions assessment is conducted by one of our admissions counsellor. Upon entry into our centre you are psychologically and physically assessed by our psychiatrist.
If drug or alcohol addiction co-occurs with co-dependency, you must undergo the detox stage of rehab. In the absence of substance abuse, patient immediately begin therapy and counselling sessions. Therapy and counselling is designed to tackle the underlying emotional causes of co-dependency. Therapy tackles issues going back many years in the patient’s life.
Therapy helps patients identify co-dependency behavioural patterns. Patients are then taught ways of dealing with situations without resorting to co-dependant behaviour. Patients are receive treatment for anxiety and depression.
Once rehab concludes a tailored aftercare and relapse prevention plan is drawn up. Patients are also encourages to attend Co-dependents Anonymous sessions taking place in their local area once rehabilitation is complete.
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